The Mysterial Sequence: Healing the Maiden Wound in Women

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This is the fourth video in a series of five which together outline The Mysterial Sequence - a developmental pathway that I've spent two decades decoding, which helps women unlock their innate potential.

The Mysterial Sequence has a very intentional and powerful order, which you can sample by journeying through each of the videos:
1. Healing the Mother Wound in Women
2. Healing the Hero Wound in Women
3. Healing the Father Wound in Women
And then return to this fourth video on the Maiden Wound

I am most passionate about the awakening of consciousness and leadership capacity in women today. Two decades of my work were spent researching with hundreds of women in my University Certificate Leadership Programs. From that body of work, a new developmental pathway was discovered, very specific to women, which showed five distinct ‘nodes’ along the pathway, in which either a feminine (Yin) or Masculine (Yang) essence was awakening.

Through this journey of the five gateways, we saw a release of limiting beliefs, awakening of liberating beliefs, and ultimately a powerful balance of a woman’s Feminine and Masculine capacities. Through this transformation and empowerment, women seemed to become a more true match for these complex times. I am deeply honored and continually inspired to teach The Mysterial Sequence in my online programs, which begin with the global course Mysterial Leadership Essentials.

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The Maiden Archetype

To arrive here in the pulsing energy of The Maiden is a significant step forward when the healthy Father Archetype has been cultivated within. Many of us have tried to access the freedom and joyful creativity that comes with The Maiden essence. But because we have not fully prepared the way for this fiery, volatile force, it has led to painful and unintended consequences.

This, as you can imagine, constitutes a threat to the powers that be. We have created a society that honors The Father’s values of order, rationality, and linear thinking. It’s no wonder that The Maiden has been repressed in Modern and Traditional consciousness, domesticated into a virginal daughter or debased into a sex object.

The Maiden Archetype is both creative and unpredictable because it opens us to the power of our dynamic Feminine life force, a libidinal surge very closely connected to our sexuality. The Maiden harnesses the flaming energy of The Hero to bring her creativity out into the world, but unlike the focus of The Hero, this blazing Yin archetype likes to break things open. She seeks connection and intimacy with others, unconcerned with rank, status, or differences. She rides the carrier wave of her intuition and doesn’t take herself too seriously.

The Maiden’s Grand Entrance

While the Maiden archetype is an ancient and universal pattern of innocent aliveness, she is a relative newcomer in terms of influencing the direction of modern society. She burst on the scene in the 1960’s as flower power, sexual freedom, psychedelic art, hunger for diversity and change, and a flat rejection of the Establishment (a.k.a. The Father Archetype). The energy she brought created an explosion of creativity, innovation, social breakdown and transformation.

For many women who worked hard to fit into the structures of the patriarchy, it is very challenging when this second force of the Feminine activates in the psyche. All of a sudden the world in which they were once happy feels suffocating and limiting. They don’t know what happened to their joy, aliveness and dreams, and they want them back. It is a very confusing time.

Without a developmental model that shows The Maiden as a natural step forward (as The Mysterial Sequence does now), women either repress this dynamic force or totally over-identify with it. They often feel they have failed or been on the wrong path, numbing down this firey essence with work, TV, food, anti-depressants, and more. We want to turn off this flame, that is trying to engage with and move us to the next level of our potentiality.

Another common assumption when The Maiden energy comes online is wanting to ‘go back’ to being a free, young girl. Women often falsely believe that the only way to reclaim this essence is to leave everything that they’ve worked to build in their life during The Father Archetype timeframe - their marriage, career, employer, etc. They want to break things up and loosen the hold of the structures in their life that they feel imprisoned by. They want to find their wild self - either again or for the first time. It’s a beautiful lighting up of the Maiden gate.

The Maiden Wound

The Maiden Wound doesn’t trust intuition, and leans back into The Father Archetype’s rational logic. From the imbalanced shadow side of The Maiden Archetype arises the core limiting belief:

“It is not safe to express myself fully.”

An overdeveloped Maiden energy may express by way of:

  • Sexual promiscuity
  • Excessive bohemian experience as a wild free child out there in the world
  • Forcing
  • Distraction
  • Thrill seeking
  • Inability to stay with the challenges of transformation

Conversely, lack of access or expression of The Maiden energy results in:

  • Fear of change or our wild nature
  • Feel shame of body and it’s sensuality
  • Puritanical rigidity, cutting off or shaming deep pleasure and desire
  • Keeping a tight lid on your life force - not coloring outside the lines
  • Insecurity
  • Holding onto things longer than they serve
  • Assume specific ‘shoulds’ around sexuality, feeling we aren’t normal
  • Allow ourselves to be objectified

It is interesting in today’s world to see the shadow Masculine return – wanting to dial things back, shut down women’s rights, stop globalization and the spread of more feminine values. This is why it is essential for us each to traverse the first three gates, in order to welcome and work with The Healthy Maiden energy.

The Healthy Maiden Archetype

When The Maiden is awakened and balanced, the Liberating Belief emerges and grounds:

“I am free to express my true nature.”  

In its healthy expression, The Maiden is the transformative awakening of imagination and spontaneity. It is the playful, sensual and sexual, “Aha!,” inchoate and wild part of ourselves that shakes things up and awakens our joy and liberates our passion. This is the place where we stand up in the joy of our own creativity with the dance with life.

She is passionate, fun loving, spontaneous, curious, imaginative, intuitive, and adventurous. She is full and unfettered creativity in expression. She knows how to flow. She is surprised by what she says, does, by life, and by the quality of relationships that unfold around her. It’s about how we connect in relationship in more intimate and sensual ways with the world and with those in our world.

With The Maiden on board you work to live, not live to work. Your life becomes a creative experiment that you enter boldly into every day, curious to see what you will invent. And joy is not a fleeting experience, earned after a lot of hard work and lost as soon as you return to the grindstone. Along with an increased ability to be with the difficult moments of life, you are ready to playfully engage in the fun of living. You recognize that this is your birthright.

The Father archetype helps you to find your purpose and stand in your own true authority. When you bring The Maiden into partnership with The Father essence, the passion and courage that you need to step forward in the direction of your dreams comes online.

Finally you become able to “get on your path,” which can mean changing jobs, starting new ventures, or going back to school. Some set off on adventures of life and love they had only dared to dream before.

“What will you do with this one wild and precious life?” - Mary Oliver
 

How to Nourish the Yin Essence of The Maiden

Self-Observation

This is always the essential place to begin, in order to unhook from these deeply unconscious limiting beliefs, so we can recognize them showing up, this is the part that consciousness plays. For a week, notice where the Limiting belief shows up in your experience “It is not safe to express myself fully.” Notice your thoughts, feelings, body sensations and what behaviors are possible or not possible. Notice moments when you shrink back, doubt yourself, feel activated, etc.. The very act of even noticing it loosens it from the unconscious, disrupting the habitual pattern in your operating system.

Going With The Emergent Flow

Select a period of time such as a Saturday morning with limited or no obligations. For at least one hour simply follow the flow of your desire, pleasure and joy. When something stops being pleasurable you stop doing it. This activity must be done alone so that you are not adjusting to someone else’s rhythms or desires.

Don’t be surprised if this is challenging at first. Keep surrendering to each moment, and asking yourself “What do I want now?” It may be empty, stay with it until a desire arises.

Example of one of Terry’s practices: She went to a morning yoga class, then wandered around the outdoor market in her neighborhood, letting herself be drawn to various foods, objects and conversations as they emerged naturally for her. She sat down on a bench in the park with her coffee and listened to a musician playing folk songs. In the middle of a song she got up (normally she would have been polite and waited until the end) and found herself walking away from the market and into a trendy home boutique nearby. She let the beautiful objects awaken and inspire her sensual, creative nature. As she turned down one of the aisles in the store she saw a young woman whom she had mentored at work many years before and they had a powerful and meaningful conversation together. It nourished her soul.

After your Emergent Flow experience, reflect on these questions:

  1. What was your embodied experience as you surrendered to flow—what were your feelings, sensations, and the quality of your thoughts?
  2. What was the quality of your experience after you did the practice? What did you notice about your energy and attention?
     
"Within every woman there lives a powerful force,
filled with good instincts,
passionate creativity, and ageless knowing.
She is the Wild Woman,
who represents the instinctual nature of women.
But she is an endangered species."
- Clarissa Pinkola Estes, PHD and author of Women who Run with the Wolves

An Invitation

This video is intended to whet your appetite - you can go deeper with the work in order to unravel from the shadow holdings of each Archetype and fully activate your potentiality in this life. This is what we do within a supportive community of like-minded women in my global online course, Mysterial Leadership Essentials.

I invite you to weave the thread of your own heart into the conversation - just use the comment section below. How do you see The Maiden Wound show up in your life? How are you working with the healthy expression of this Archetypal energy?

I hope to have a chance to engage with you in this unfolding Mysterial movement.

 
 

Watch the next video in The Mysterial Sequence: Healing the Crone Wound in Women.